Every time I see my sister-in-law, Roza*, she tells me that I am “so pious for dressing modestly” even when I’m around my family. Funny, right? Well, she says this because I usually wear long skirts, pants or jeans at home and sometimes I wear scarves as well – and when I’m around mahram people other than my daughter and my husband, I usually throw on a cardigan or something over my tank tops. It’s not really about trying to be “more religious”, it’s just about being comfortable.
Inside style refers to what a hijabi Muslimah wears when she’s at home. I like to call my inside style Bohurban-Chic (bohemian+urban+chic) and here’s why I wear what I wear:
[1] long skirts because they’re comfy and cute;
[2] tank tops because I like the idea of wearing something fitted on top of flowy skirts – and of course tank tops are super-comfy;
[3] silk scarves because they keep my wet hair from getting frizzy as it air dries (they also allow me to look cute on bad hair days!);
[4] a gold name chain because I’ve wanted one ever since I was 10 years-old and inshaAllah I’ll still be wearing it when I’m 80 (!);
[5] hair sticks because they provide a cute way to pin my hair up;
[6] big gold hoops because they’re essentials and they look great when you wear your hair up;
[7] indian bangles because they’re my favorite and I love the jingling noise that they make;
[8] black eyeliner because it makes me feel a little fancy – J. Lo Live Luxe perfume has the same effect;
[9] flip flops because I usually like to have something on my feet.
Ok, so what’s your inside style? Do you dress the same way around everyone that you don’t have to be completely covered around? Or do you have different levels of modesty depending on who you’re with?
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That’s a good question actually!
When I’m with family I just go around with no Hijab.
With non-mahram, I’m fully covered if I’m out or at someone else’s home, but at home, its a lot less restricted, depending on how long I’ve known said people.
I wear traditional Indian clothes inside the home anyway, and outside just wear trousers and jeans with long tops and hijab.
Inside I can be found in the following:
Lounge or yoga pants.
Tanks
Dance Wear-b/c my favorite exercise routines involve samba, salsa, reggaton!
short strapless or strappy dresses (sweetie LIKES these!-they are usually the kind a hijabi wears with jeans, cardis or jean jackets outside)
Lately long sleeve cotton tees because its getting kind of frio.
LEGGINGS-outside I wear them underneath an abaya, a long skirt or maxi dress
A headband-holding back the hair (current obsession polka dots)
Oh the other part of the question.
I won’t let the girls dangle in front of ANYONE but the hubby. Perhaps a tank top with my mother around. Tee-shirts with mahram males. Around other sisters the scarf can come off if there is no danger of dudes interrupting.
Because I am out a lot I find it completely essential to not have anything on my head at home. After a long day- the hair is screaming let me out!
Samira said: “I won’t let the girls dangle in front of ANYONE but the hubby.”
LMBO! That is the funniest thing I’ve heard today. :-)
That is very funny Samira!
At home, it’s just me and my hubby so I feel free to wear comfy clothes and my hijab comes off the minute I walk in the door. Tank-tops and t-shirts with comfy pants or cute pajama sets are what I’m most often in…sometimes a mumu dress makes the cut if it’s really hot. If I’m around family, I cover a little more with pants and a t-shirt, and if it’s cold my robe. When non-family members are around, I wear everyday “outside clothes” (jeans or pants, skirts, long sleeve shirts, etc) and of course hijab!
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At home I may wear a bandana that lets my hair hang out the back instead of fully covering my hair, if it’s daytime and I’m just doing my housework or job-searching online, for instance. If it’s past 8:00 PM, though, I’m showered and wearing pajamas. That means boxers, long pajama pants, or yoga pants on the bottom. On top I wear a tank top, sometimes also with a warm sweater if it’s cold. Finally, I always wear flip-flops or slippers that are only worn indoors instead of ever outside. I don’t need nasty sidewalk germs on the floors where I and my cats walk around with bare feet!
In the rare event that someone comes over by surprise after I’ve put on my pajamas, I will simply throw on a hooded robe and close it tight, then pull up the hood. They need to know that they’ve intruded on my personal, private hours, without me having to say it directly and hurt their feelings.
I cracked up when I read your entry because I was trying to imagine what you must look like in your robe with the hood pulled up! If that doesn’t say ‘do not disturb’, then I don’t know what does! LMBO Good one, masha’Allah!
Congrats on the new magazine, I’m so glad it’s here!!
As for the question, I tend to wear skinny jeans or skirts with graphic t’s or some nice tops. Occasionally, I wear traditional Somali clothes.
I don’t cover my hair in front of my family or at a girls night in. But when I’m visiting a friends house or non-mahram happen to visit my family I cover accordingly.
When I’m home, I love to be comfortable. I love soft cotton anything! I have a ton of jersey maxi dresses which I would no longer wear in public. I love to lounge around in them. No cardigan and no hijab. But I live alone, so it works for me.
Thanks for the site! I find so many awesome ideas here. As a new Muslimah, all the info is so helpful!
Salaam
Vivian
Me to Vivian it is more comfortable specially when you are back to home after a very long day at work.
My inside style is tank tops with yoga pants. Yoga pants are really comfortable and stretch with your movement. In fact, some good quality ones can also be worn with shirt dresses when you go out.
One tip to don this outfit is to choose bright colours that suit your skin tone. Colours play an important role in lifting your mood.
Also with the increasingly warm climate here in Asia, the more cotton you wear, the better.
As a stay-at-home mother I’m pretty much always in my comfy attire! Of course the hair is out! The way I figure, I cover when I’m out so when I’m inside, it’s a no-no! My choices usually are:
Shorts: thigh-length, preferably denim, various colors, because I find them cute and oh-so-comfortable!
Tank tops, tee-shirts: always fitted, because they are comfortable and cute; hubby likes the “fitted” part (wink)
Slippers: Me, hubby, and kids wear slippers because bare feet are a serious no-no in my home!
Jewelry: wrist/ankle bracelets, hoops, necklaces, toe rings, whatever, you name it, because they complete the outfit
Make-up: very little to none, like eyeliner and a lip gloss, because hubby doesn’t like make-up and prefers me as natural as possible
Perfume: You’d better believe it! I don’t wear it outside the home, so when I’m home I wear it ALL the time! LOL
Fitness is extremely important to me, so I exercise about 5 to 6 days a week inside my home. As a result, I do sometimes traipse around the house in my exercise pants and spandex tops. These are very comfortable, so I have to be careful that I don’t end up wearing them on a regular basis. LOL
My only exception is when I hve guests, then I dress like I do when I’m out, in jilbab and hijab. That sucks because I live in Hawaii where it’s really hot!
mashallah….i was planning to move to hawaii years ago before i converted met my husband. i was wondering about the “muslim population” in hawaii….how is the community? are there lots of muslims there? and is there a masjid out there? what island?
As salaamu alaykum, Amy!
Subhana’Allah, talk about a delayed response, but I guess it’s true what they say about better late than never? ~he he he~ Anyways, sis, if you have any more questions about Hawaii, you can e-mail me at umm_hazim@yahoo.com. Insha’Allah, I’ll be more than happy to answer any questions you have about living here in Hawaii, and I’d just like hearing from you!
xoxoxo
I usually wear tradional pakistani clothing because I love them they are so cofortable and very nice. Because I love working out I also wear yoga pants and tshirt. When I am around my family I still have a dupatta or scarf just not on my head;).
Salam sisters!
I work with children therefore I need to be really comfortable to be able to jump, run, climb, etc! My choices usually are dresses up to the knee with jeans or pants underneath.
I like maxidresses with leggings underneath and if the dress is too light and you can see trough I wear indian pants underneath, they are very comfortable and cool.
To go out with my husband or functions I chose a lot more formal things, usually pants with long jackets, right up to my ankles ( I don’t know how they are called), and long dresses with embroidery details.
I love accesories I think that’s the best part of an outfit.
Can be the simplest dress but a good ring can make a lot of difference!!
salam!
this is what i think throws a lot of my girlfriends off….
i wear hijab outside, usually with jeans and a top that cuts off at the knees, with a long necklace, and my lovely combat boots. but at home. i wear anything. usually i straighten my hair, i love mini skirts which i stopped wearing outside because of hijab. atleast i can wear it at home. i either wear my tanktops or t-shirts. i’m pretty free at home. when my uncles or grandfather are/is around i just replace the skirts with jeans or capris. makeup wise i wear eyeliner outside and do some cotouring but at home i just add a little dark eyeshadow now and then. the thing about hijab is that you don’t have to give up what you love. i love mini dresses during summer and i can wear that in privacy. you don’t have to loose your sense of fashion with hijab…the difference is that you are pleasing yourself and not others.
Salaam sisters!
I’m so glad I found this place, it’s really rocken!
Ayesha, you’re right – hijab is not about losing your sense of style or not being you, it’s just that’s it’s for you and your husband, not other people.
I recently started wearing hijab, though I’m a born Muslim, and was always a little of a tomboy. My son even exclaimed in surprise one day when he saw me with a long skirt, so much I seem to have jeans spray-painted on me!
So I’m always in jeans and a long T-shirt around the family (Mom/MIL house) and in my own home, it can be jeans and a fitted strappy top (love the Victoria’s Secret ones). In summer, I even wear miniskirts the kind you’d see in a hiphop video with a small cropped/sleeveless top. In winter, jeans and a sweater. The only thing that changes is that when I go out, I just throw a jilbab on top and tie on a scarf, while underneath I may in said fitted top and jeans.
To me it’s all about being comfortable and feeling good about yourself. Lol, I also love to ‘tease’ my man with my at-home clothes, coz frankly, he’s the one I should be teasing and I’m the only woman he should be getting excited for, so why spare us this thrill?
Definitely will be dropping by here now, adding it to my Favorites!
I love it! Tease your man that is right girl! We as women need to realize all that our husbands are exposed to. Why in the heck would they want to come home and see us covered from head to toe, when they are out in the real world!
Lol, that’s exactly it! We should give them a reason to shrug off all the outside temptation and really pant after what their wives can give them!
I also work out for this reason, even if I’ve found that using Pilates techniques such as sucking your stomach and lower belly in when doing salaat carve my body better than any other exercise!
Gotta use all our assets, frankly, and that’d be on the man we’re married to!
At home, it’s just me and the hubby, so I am usually in lapas, wrap-skirts or yoga pants with camisoles or tanks. No hijab necessary! We live in Florida and it gets super hot! Also, I wear plenty of perfume (Miss Dior Cherie makes my hubby happy).
-Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah
when i get home from school i take my hijab off first thing no mater what i usually just keep my jeans or others pants on but i always put on a t-shirt since i just stated wearing hijab i have lots of tops i never use so i usually put one on. On the weekend i always put on a dress they make me fell so happy.
ps: thanks for the awsome website it helps alot because i live in a small town and not many people my age wear hijab and they did not do things i had to do your site can really make me fell like im not the only 13 year old that wears hijab.
love your site
hagar
Hi, Hagr! I’m a new to hijab too and am still making the transition clothing-wise. Mostly I end up wearing t-shirts and jeans– even if I’m not as covered as I’d like to be because I don’t have many long sleeve shirts. I’ve found that when I can, layering the short sleeve, low cut or short tops with something under or over them (or both!) allows me to use what I have in my closet.
Sometimes I also wear a little mascara or makeup because I am so fair. Perfume is optional for me too. And, of course, when I’m in public I wear a hijab. I tend to go through phases of wearing an al-amira or a shayla.
My footwear is usually stylish but conservative (and comfortable!).
Hi there. Just wanted to say i love the site. I am not a muslim yet but i am learning a lot. This thread shattered 1 of my misconceptions. U dont have to hidden at home lol. Thanks again.
Caroline,
Was glad to read your post. Yes, lots of misconceptions about the proper Muslim attire, I get a lot of those questions too because I used to be a very jeans-tshirt-top girl with Halle Berry haircut and suddenly decided to go all the way with jilbab and head covering. It was like, how can you do that? Did your husband force you (I even heard that one, lol!)
But the fact is, at home you’re free to be as you want, and like Seref says just down here, it’s fun getting all dolled up. The only difference is that it’s private, for your eyes and those of your husband only.
And of course, you can be very comfortable in soft and figure-hugging clothes under the jilbab! It always happened to me that I was in jeans and a fitted top, and to go out I’d need to go iron a long blouse or something else like that which would cover my behind when I went out, and that was a pain, like, I wasn’t comfy in this long blouse. Whereas with a jilbab, it’s free and flowing and you can have your fitted and comfy clothes underneath and none’s the wiser, while you also feel good about yourself.
Oh my, I’m rambling! Lol
when i’m at home with hubby, then fun, feminine makeup (if i’m not too tired) and a ponytail with dangly earrings. Tight jeans! lol and usually a spaghetti strap or fitted top w/ short sleeves that I wouldn’t wear outside cuz it discloses my beauty ;) I try and remember that my husband probably doesn’t wanna see me in a blase jilbab and blotchy skin ALL THE TIME! Plus, I have fun dolling myself up!
Hi Caroline, if you have any more questions, feel free to contact me at stephanie.eren@gmail.com.
salaam everyone!
like caroline, i’m not a muslim yet but i’m on a very interesting path to converting to islam. it’s quite challenging to put an outfit together on a daily basis, as my closet is still full of mini-skirts, tight skinny jeans, and strapless tops!! but my wardrobe is slllllooooooowwwwwlllllyyy transforming (i’m still a broke college kid!) luckily i have tons of hoodies.
it’s starting to get colder in georgia, so it hasn’t been that difficult lately. i’ve purchased a few long-sleeve tees that will go with some scarves i have–thanks to the wonderful advice from the Muslimah2Muslimah sisters!! now inside, i’m likely to wear anything comfortable, like a baggy t-shirt or sweatpants (my brother says i’m such a tomboy). when its hot i’ll throw on my old cheer shorts. oh, and i always have to have something on my feet; whether it’s socks or slippers. for some reason, given any season, i instantly start sneezing when my bare feet hit the floor! weird huh?!?!
That’s funny – I’m always with socks too. A whiff of breeze on my feet and I too start sneezing!
That’s so cool to hear you’re on the road to Islam. I say so because though I’m a born Muslim, it took me over two decades to really discover the beauty that is Islam. So in a way, I know what that feels like and it’s an awesome feeling.
Insha’Allah, may your path be strewn with blessings and richness.
Hey Cece, is it Georgia in the US? Well Im from Atlanta! MashAllah! MAy Allah guide you! Better to have a slow and strong transition than a fast and quivering one!
Thanks for the feedback. I have found it easier to dress modestly because I had a lap band and am losing weight. So all my clothes are now looser. I was never one for tight and revealing things because I dont want all the attention lol. So now I go for the loungewear at home, scrubs at work, and loose teeshirts and jeans for school. Like cece, I like to keep something on my feet.
I don’t know, I just don’t find the need to dress up when I’m at home.
Some days I’ll do my hair but mainly I whip off the hijab, put on my old p.e shorts and top (since I’m with my family) and do whatever I need to do
Outside I’ll wear my nice clothing (with hijab of course) and when it’s a formal event I’ll try and get all jazzed up.
But at home? Eh, it’s a place of comfort, and I’m comfortable and happy to wear pajamas around the house :]
Hahaaha! That is so me! As soon as I walk in, I change into loungewear (pajama pants reallly)!!! ITs just so comfy. And I m always wearing socks…even sleep in them…I guess my feet get cold easily!
i go all loose. baggy t-shirts and shorts when i’m at home.
Assalamu Alaikum,
I normally wear my abayas or my skirts…masha’allah!! I love my hijabs because they hide my beauty,masha’allah!! People always ask me to wear normal clothes and to see my hair…its so funny!!!
Well, I wear my skinny jeans and cute tops underneathe…I occasionally wear my makeup and do my hair…
Well, insha’allah, i will get more abayas though!! I love abayas…
I got a white Pashima today…its so comfy..my mom even like it!!!
I love putting on some pretty and soft perfume for the house…smells SO GOOD!!!!
I’m a style chameleon so at home I can have on anything from W. African clothes to a diric to a sari to a nursing tank and shorts.
I have 3 children one is a preteen boy so when I am home I still take care that not to much is showing. I do let my hair down. I usually wear a tank top and yoga pants or a maxi dress with a tank top underneath, since most are so low cut its ridiculous.In the summer it is usually a skirt and top or a light dress.I ocassionally wear shorts but they go to my knees. When I am not being lazy, I wear makeup but not to often. My husband works nights so he sleeps all day. Whenever I am to pray or I have guest, I put on an abaya if Im wearing tight clothes or a chuddah if I am wearing a skirt. I almost always have slippers on. Cute sequined thongs
When I work, I wear dress pants with long tops with my scarf wrapped. I always have an awesome pair of shoes. I love shoes!!
Always black khohl and lipgloss no matter what Im doing or where Im going. Sometimes If im sneeky I might put on a little tinted moisturizer when im out.
I know what you mean about the preteen boy. My husband’s son is a tween now and when he’s at home I don’t wear the really low cut tank tops or the really skinny jeans. I’ll usually throw a large T-shirt over the jeans. Very rarely in miniskirt or shorts, and these too are mostly what I wear when alone (kids at school) or in the evenings when the kids are in bed (my stepson doesn’t live with us except on weekends) and I’m just with the man.
I used to use lipgloss too but find I need medicated lip balm coz my lips always chap and bleed. So what I did was melt a stick of lip balm and added a bit of lipstick. This diluted the colour so now I get the medication plus the really sheer colour. Amazing how a burst of colour, even pale, on your lips can revitalize your face!
I love to have designer hijabs. Diversity is also important.
Don’t wear black everyday!
I just bought some long printed Indian dresses, took the short sleeves out and added in long sleeves in block black. Looks like an Abaya but it’s got the nice color and design on the fabric, which adds some variety for me. It’s also in cotton, great for the tropical summer here.
salam ! im new here. so, still trying to get use to this tingie. he he dont this side have a chat room or sumthing???
p/s: i love this website!
Aslaammm :) am neww here …. omdz loven da site :)
i think im a bit of a hippie on the inside. lol i love flared jeans and pants with lose printed caftans, and i love [read: crazy love] rings, big rings and chunky bangles. I used love wearing ear rings but i found that since i’ve started wearing the hijab and because im still very new im not how to pin it right so that i can still wear ear rings so until i get that sorted the ear rings stay in the jewelry box. Im new to this site and i must say that Alhumdulilah its a wonderful site for sisters. I pray that you grow and achieve bigger and brighter things insha Allah :)
Afreeza, Faizah & Sima
Assalam Aleikoum ladies! It’s a pleasure to meet you! I love this blog too, feels like home in a really topsy-turvy world. I was away on study leave (university exams) but now rarring to get back in the thick of things here!
Sima, I too had to give up the earrings. They were the only jewellery I did wear previously butt he hijab covers my ears and neck. So I stick to rings and bangles now.
May Allah have all the best in store for you all.
Assalam aleikoum sisters,
I am a muslim woman and I have always wanted to wear the hijab. I am now trying and I have to say I really love but I just can’t get to cover myself fully maybe with time it will come. Ever since I decided to learn more about my religion, I realised that things are easier for me and I get less stressed and concern about things. I know it will take time but I am trying hard and would love to get feed back because most of my friends don’t wear the hijab and I find it very hard being the only one trying to wear the hijab maybe it would’ve been easier if I knew other ladies that wear the hijab as well.
BTW I am in love with the website and very interesting and helps me not to go and look at unuseful things oneline.
Salam!!!!!
Salaams Mami!
I know exactly what you mean. I had trouble getting used to the covering up part. It happened little by little for me, like when going out I started wearing tops that were not form-fitting and also covered my bum or large T-shirts. That became pretty normal then I started wearing sleeves that went below the elbow. Little by little like that, you get used to it. And then in winter I used to turn a pashmina scarf around my head to keep the cold away, it became a natural transition to being used to wearing the scarf and that morphed into the hijab.
It’s true that when you embrace Islam’s way, it is not at all a repression but a liberation. I cannot conceive of not being in hijab outside now.
If you cannot, don’t try to change your dress sense overnight. That doesn’t work. Taking it one step at a time brings in your heart the slow but steady conviction that you’re doing it the right way and lets you get used to it and build your confidence.
Hope this helps, insha’Allah, may Allah bless your path and help you find your way.
HMM i think for me it has to be skinny jeans with a long smock dress and cardi with gladiator trousers ussualy my dresses are colouful and come down just below the knees so it makes me feel feminine yet muhtarama and modest .Also a long beaded necklace ussualy does the trick.I have got to say im in love with the muslimette .I have worn the higab since i was 13 though its different for a young girl in a western country i believe it has given me confidence and strength to show the world that wearing the higab doesnt have to be boring!! Even wearing a simple red scarf with red shoes and a red bangle can show people that we are fashionable .I am a teenager that has lived in the uk all my life yet still i believe higab is important for every girl and whats best than showing modesty with style!!!you go girls and not all higab is black and dull!!
sorry i meant shoes!!!not trousers stupid me
I love this line – modesty with style! You hit the nail on the head!
thankyou zaynah i would love to know more about you because i have no muslim friends because the nearest islamic community is 100 miles away and me and my mum are the only muslims le alone veiled mslims here so i like to show my town that muslims are just like normal people and that in the fashion world there are modest looking styles like now its laering so longsleeved tops with t-shirts are in oooo and also boyfriend cardigens and blazers!!!!
Assalam aleikoum Shadwa!
So you’re in the UK? I now live in Maurititius but was in England about a decade ago. Where are you there, if I may ask?
I know what you mean about showing that Muslim clothing need not be really ‘abnormal -looking’! Living on an island where the average temps is 30 degrees Celsius all year round gives ample opps for most people to bare their skin as much as possible. When you go all covered-up it’s like, insane folks or what? Also, all my friends are mostly non-Muslims and very much career girls and the like, really corporate looking and totally not modest-dressing!
I think Muslim fashion is a lot about mix and match. I wear a lot of caftan-like Indian long dresses in woven cotton that really look good, feel good, and completely mask the body shape. I use pashminas a lot in winter but since it’s summer now I’m veering more towards loosely-woven thread scarves. When you layer it twice over your head the little gaps in the fabric get covered and no one sees your hair, but it allows air to get to your neck too so you don’t get heatstroke! I used to wear skinny jeans underneath them but with the heat I’m finding cotton yoga pants work like a breeze! Also, love the trendy harem-style pants.
I’d love to get to know you too. My email addy is in my name above, feel free to email me if you want! I’d love to hear from you.
hi zaynah u kno thats also my name(zaynah)but my mum always called me ida(nikname)lyk your talk mashALLAH!.just wanted to ask about the lipgloss dont you think its a bit make-uppy!lip balm or some vaseline would do for outside n maybe lipstik and gloss for hubby.plz dont get me wrong, just asking?
Ida, assalam aleikoum.
That’s funny, we share the same name! My mom calls me Fee but outside the house, I rarely go by that nickname. Most of the people I know call me Zayn or Zee.
About the lipgloss, lol, didn’t get you wrong. I know what you mean. In fact, my husband asked me the same thing when we were out and I said that I needed to stop by the beauty counter (that’s his worst nightmare, btw!) to get some gloss. The trick, as I’ve found, is to use natural colours. I go for a very sheer bordeaux-pink that when you wear doesn’t look like colour at all but like your natural lip colour. Call it the nude look but the really pale things never worked for me (I’m Indian origin and so have the really ghastly yellow-toned complexion).
I used the Bourgeois water-based gloss, very sheer but hydrating. It gives colour but barely like it’s there, looks more like you just bit your lip ten times, that’s the kind of colour it brings. Balm looks kinda cakey-white on my lips since they’re so dry so I have to veer to gloss. But it doesn’t look like makeup, like those really glossy-vinyl-like glosses out there. Maybelline Water Shine also works, just don’t get the Water Shine Diamonds kind. Tip a little on the V of the upper lip, press your lips together, then spread using your finger to the sides.
Just like we have to exact moderation in clothing, it applies to makeup too, imo. I hope I didn’t make you bristle with my comment now…
caroline and cece,inshaALLAH ul be okayand we are all here for you guys just ask and we will share inshaALLAH
thank you ida. i have gotten to know several sisters and gotten much support. i dont live near a large muslim population and it is easy to feel isolated. thankful to have found this site.
ALLAH S.W.T has told us to hide our beauty(body parts,make up and ornaments)and only show our hubbys.we dont have to be considered stylish if it means going against ALLAH’s rule.HE said “they will not be satisfied untill we follow them” sisters we have an avenue now(thanks to muslimette)to give each other support and have our own say on what is halal stylish or fashionabble without caring what anybody else thinks.lets go girls!am loving this.
inside am in full make up and stylish outfits since i love looking pretty and am in sweet scents too.
Ida, I back you here a hundred and fifty percent!
The key to Muslim attire is to feel good about yourself. You know the saying, she’d look good in a potato sack. Why? Because that girl doesn’t need the clothes on her back to radiate who and what she is – it comes from inside her. This is what, imo, a Muslim woman is about too – she shines above mundane things like clothing and the likes.
However, we are human and women too, so there is always that compulsion to feel and look good. But what many do not realize (esp non-Muslims) is that there’s lots of leeway in what Muslim clothing should be about. Nothing was set in stone that clothing had to be this type alone or that type alone or shame on you for wearing this combo or that one.
This is a great avenue to help each other out with what can be done and what cannot, and may Allah guide us as we engage on this endeavour!
hi muslimette how long does it take for people to post comments?
is there a specific hour to have a live chat?
aa(asalam aleikum)zaynah thanks for replying.ever since i found muslimette i keep loggin in but there is nonone around.i think they should have lyk a chat room(24hrs).gal u know so much about beauty i wish i had you in my handbag for all the juicy tips!mashALLAH.zaynah where should a headscarf(hijab)i always thought it should go over the chest.
I know what you mean. The place was really romping last month but now I see only a few people commenting. Also doesn’t help that there’s no new blog topic for a while. Guess the focus went to the mag, while the community of the blog is just tiptoeing around.
I usually try to check in once a day, but sometimes with work and commitments I’m not able to and thus 2 days go before I can drop in again. I loved to have found this place too, it was really awesome to connect with other Muslim sisters. I’d love the chat room too, though with my wacky time zone I’d prolly be on when no one is around!
Lol. The beauty tips came from lots of trial and error. I never wanted to shine out of the lot even when I didn’t wear a hijab, so I learned how to be there but without melting into the woodwork either. Any tip you wanna know about, just ask, lol!
As for the hijab question – from a hadith I had read, Prophet Mohammad (SAWS) mentioned that women’s body shapes shouldn’t be apparent under their clothing and that they should cover their bosom if it was noticeable.
A lot of abayas kinda cover up your shape, but in case you’re still doubtful, it’s better to wear a scarf that also covers down to your chest and thus masks your shape completely. Those of us with flat-as-iron-board chests get away with it coz there’s really nothing to notice once the abaya/loose clothing is on. Basically the purpose of Muslim clothing is to hide adornments so yes, I suppose that would mean covering your chest too.
hey guys yh i think ida we should have a meebo room im in love with this website and i love hearing about other muslims to!!!
salam my sisters !!
Allright, call me daft or old, lol, but what’s a meebo room? Is it like a specific chat room you create and invite people in?
I was thinking even a Yahoo group would be fun to help us all stay in touch and connect.
What do you think?
i also dont know wat a meebo room is.anyway i was thinking we could come up with our own blogs and atleast try and chek in once a day even in our hectic days just to see wats new.wat do you think guys?or if anyone has an idea to get us connected plz help!!
Salaam Ladies!
Just wanted to say that things have been quiet around the Muslimette blog because we were working on the magazine. Now we’re taking a much needed break. :-)
InshaAllah, new blog posts will be up soon. We also have some additional plans underway to help build a Muslimette Community here. Stay tuned for updates on that! I’m thinking a forum, individual blogs that you all can run, live telephone conferences, and live chats.
These are some of the things we’re looking into and do let us know if you have any further suggestions for us.
Thanks for being here with us!
-Kima
The Editor
Salaams Kima
That’s great to know things will pick up. Many of us view this site as an answer to our prayers, and it’s so good to connect with like-minded sisters.
Hope the mag is doing great. I’m waiting to come into some money to be able to buy my subscription.
The forum would be great! And live chats too sound like fun. I’m not much of an online person so dunno wat else is popular, so I’ll let the other ladies add their chime.
sisters i have a problem,i cant seem to kno when to perform ghusl after menses.how do you know that you are now clean and you you should perform ghusl.what sign do you look out for?what does it say in fiqhi or sunnah or hadith about this issue?i feel so traumatised every month and i dont want to miss swala out of ignorance pliz help
Salaams sister
I remember from hadith I read that Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) said that menses last for 7 days. Anything that comes after that, even if you’re still bleeding, is not menses and you are allowed to take ghusl and do salaat. I usually time mine for 7 days as from the time I first notice the bleeding (add 24 hours x 7 to this).
If I’m not mistaken too, the same hadith mentioned that menses blood is darker and after 7 days even if you’re bleeding, it’ll be a ‘healthier’ blood colour.
I’m not sure if you can perform ghusl and do salaat if your period stops before 7 days… I’ll check and let you know, try to see if I can find an online link to that hadith.
Hope this helps!
thanx zaynah but i’ve dah two other different things:that after 10 days is healthy and after 15 days its healthy so is it 7,10,or 15?
Trix,
Sorry this is so late, I had a university exam yesterday and wasn’t online at all in the past 2 days.
For this matter, I’m actually wrong. There’s no specific length of time. I checked in Bukhari, Muslim and Fiqh-us-Sunnah and the only mention of the length of menses pertains to when bleeding stops, or when bleeding is no longer dark and looks like a red blood color itself. Nothing is set in stone as to the number of days.
i meant heard!
after period one shuld wait until she gets a pale yellow almost whitish discharge this is a normal discharge and sign that one is clean and shuld make ghusl and resume prayers.the dark reddish brown followed by the deep yellow discharge are not tohara( clean)and have a percentage of blood in them(thats why the funny colour)ALLAH KNOWS BEST
trix: check this website, maybe itll help inshallah.
http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=3&ID=3671&CATE=411
Salam Sisters! I just cam upon this website! And YES! I’m in love!!!!!!!
I wish there was a chatroom.
@Zaynah: u live in Mauritius? MashAllaj how Muslims are just all over! You must speak french then!
I have a topic: I was just lookign up the rulings on eyebrow shapings. What do you sisters think? I don’t personally do it, but I come across it alot, so I wonder if there are really strong ruligns about it! Thank you.
Rabeeyah,
Yes, in mauritius (know where it is, lol?) Yup, Muslims all over the world, alhamdullilah.
Funny you mention eyebrows – when I was researching the hadith for the menses question Trix asked, I came upon the sayings in Bukhari that we’re not supposed to tweaze our eyebrows. I used to do it before but now I’ve stopped. It feels awful really, but I don’t wanna go against a law/rule especially when I know about it.
Yes I know where Mauritius is :-D…I’ve had friends from there…InchAllah I will visit one day!
But as far as the tweazing, patience my dear…It go back to looking natural after the rough patch.
Wow, you know Mauritius, and even know people here!
Forgot to answer your other q – yes, I speak French, as well as Creole which is the native language here ( a variant of French, it’s also spoken in Louisiana in the US) and I also speak Hindi and Urdu, since my ancestors are from India. Not that totally fluent in the last two, but I get by and can understand when someone speaks to me in that language.
Ameen to the visit of Mauritius. My house is always open – I hope insha’Allah we get to meet this way.
The tweezing, lol, yeah, it does grow back. I’ve got really thick eyebrows now and alhamdullillah it doesn’t look like I’ve stuck fake hair onto my face! It just takes some good brushing with an eyebrow brush to place it in shape.
LOL!!!! The fake hair in the brow!!! that must of been a sight! :-D
Man! I always wanted to learn creole! I just find it so cool! We listened to zouk alot and we would daydream of palmtrees and sandy beaches! :-D
I grew up in Louisiana and I feel the creole there is quite different, it sounds more cajun than anything else…not as sweet and sultry as the islanders! :) Lucky you for being so multi-langual!
Lol Rabeeyah!
Creole is fun. So you know zouk! Wow, first time I hear a non-islander saying that! Still Creole differs from land to land. We can all pretty much understand each other but each place has its own turn of phrase. Lol, I actually find Cajun creole to be more lyrical, but guess that’s normal – others’ speaking it sounds way better!
Multi-lingual yeah – we gotta be on the island!
hey!
yeh, i’ve got relly thick brows aswell, and most of the time my hijaab covers it, so i dont worry too much. i wudnt bother with the plucking, as it grows back, and u cant relly stop, otherwise u just get stubbles!
I found my hijab hovers just above the eybrows now, so they’re not really that noticeable. I haven’t plucked in over a onth now, lol!
Salaams, I am from South Africa and just happend to come across this site while researching. I have a Group on Face Book called Scarves for You, we deal with all Hijabi Issues and Hijabi Fashion. I must say this site is pretty cool and I am definitely amazed.
Masha Allah
Mwazis
Zeenat,
I have to check your group on FB. Thanks for telling us about it.
Hey we’re close – I’m from Mauritius!
Salam Zeenat,
I wanted to add your group on facebook but there were no results….can you make it public? Welcome to the site!
Nevermind Zeenat, I found it! Its pretty cool!
Salaam, i am also from South Africa, just joined the fb group now its great!
guys plucking or shaping of eyebrows is haraam
We know Ida..that’s what we’re trying to get across…but ishAllah more sisters will be aware of it
Love the comments on style. I adore clothes and used to be really interested in fashion, even thought about being a designer for a while, but thank god, decided against it.
For work, I usually wear wide leg trousers with dresses and pashminas. Chunky boots and smart shoes in the winter, wedge-heeled sandals in the summer. I always try to look smart and colour coordinated. I used to adore earrings, but don’t wear them anymore due to hijaab. Now I love rings, and have a nice collection. In fact, I feel naked without a ring on LOL!
As soon as I get home, my scarf comes off. At weekends, I mear jeans and tunics. I try to work out and do yoga and rebounding whenever I can. I also think that if salah is performed properly, it is a very good for the body.
Make-up. Well, I love it. But I am trying to tone it down outside the home. It is really difficult. I grew up with such a negative image of myself, and used make-up to make me look better. When I adopted the hijaab, somehow I just continued with makeup from habit. But now I am definitely toning it down so it looks natural. Also am wearing less perfume in general, but love really luxe shower cremes and gorgeous smelling moisturisers.
I love to look good for my hubby. Just wish he would notice the effort a bit more.
Love all the comments. And I love how Islam gives us guidelines, but we don’t all have to wear head to toe black. Style and modesty – I’m going to remember that one! Islam makes me feel good about myself.
Zara,
Lol, those men have really thick skulls, don’t they? I remember I once stopped wearing a nose piercing and it took hubby 3 weeks and even some prodding to realise it was gone!
Agree with what you said here. Islam is about modesty in style.
You’re right about salaat being performed well shapes the body. I don’t do any workout now, only salaat and I hold my body the way they teach you in Pilates class, (which come to think it, I found out this is pretty much how the hadith say you have to stand in salaat!) and I gotta say it shows tremendous results. I have a flatter stomach than before I was pregnant with my son, and really toned arms and legs now.
Wow! I’m learnig something u guys! I guys we should watch our postures when performing salat…
Yup. Stand tall, breathe in, and when you breathe out, you gently pull your lower belly in (sorry for the words to follow: as if you are trying to stop the flow in the loo).
This then pulls in your leg muscles tight, making them work twice when you move. Your central core (waist area) also takes the brunt of holding your body, as it should, and your stomach automatically pulls in. Then roll your shoulder blades outwards and feel your back settle into a comfortable straight line.
Try holding on to this core/stomach in position when you go into rukuh and sijdah in salaat – you’ll be like doing 3 crunches with one bend! At first your leg muscles will feel really stretched and will hurt, but that means it’s also working.
Also when in sijdah, your forehead will be touching the mat but try to bear the bulk on your body weight on your arms (with hands flat on the mat on both sides of your head). You’ll also feel your upper arms taking on your weight and that’s great for toning them up.
I shaped myself up this way, and it works! Even got my hubby to do it and he shaped up the way 15 years of kickboxing and martial arts couldn’t achieve!
The key also – remember to pull the lower belly in when you’re breathing out! And also, perform salaat slowly, no rush in the moves, as it should be actually but most of us rush through prayer. Hey – what better way to get exercise into our routines, eh?
Hope this helps, insha’Allah!
Guuuuuuuuuuuuuurl!!! How about my arms have been hurting for 3 days now!!!!! :-D ….but really, I can feel the change…and its so fast!! Le t me just try to keep it up!
Thanks for the breathing instructions Zaynah. I noticed that when I slowed my salaat down, I enjoyed it more, and my bum and stomach were more toned. I will incorporate other tips you have suggested, as it feels good to be toned up.
When I was growing up, I used to love exercising. I had a Cindy Crawford exercise video and me and my sisters used to squat and lunge like you wouldn’t believe! Now, 4 kids later, those muscles are like a distant memory. In fact, I remember my first pregnancy, every time I went to the midwife for a check-up, I would get asked things like whether I was a gymnast or athlete because my stomach muscles were rock hard!
Husbands are a funny bunch, all right! Now I dress to please me first, and if he likes it, then it is a bonus.
I love your posts, by the way. You sound really chilled out!
Rabeeyah and Zara
Glad you could work the fitness tips in. Yeah, the arms and legs do hurt a lot, but after a while it becomes almost automatic. Yup, the change is fast and so obvious! You should also feel your ribcage really curving in towards the bottom, in that sort of catwalk-model way!
Zara – I had that Cindy Crawford tape too! Loved the routines but they didn’t shape me like the salaat one did. No one believes I’ve had a kid with that flat stomach and tones bod!
Husbands? Don’t even mention, lol! It’s good to make their jaws drop once in a while, innit?
Sorry I didn’t reply you girls earlier. Work was killing me!
Salaam ladies!
I recently discovered this site looking for stylish hijab things and I adore it! I live in Europe ( The Netherlands) and the muslim population is quite different than it is the USA (well, thats what I think). When I’m reading your comments it looks to me as if you are much more stricter in your clothing, which I believe is a real good thing. I dont read about any girl wearing skinny jeans? Skinny jeans are completely normal worn by Hijab girls in Europe. Not alone ofcourse, they were a tunic or a dress untill the knees, but still. I’m going to New York in april insh Allah, so it will be my first time in the states, so I’m very excited to see how my sister dress over there =D I always wondered about how Americans see Hijabi’s. I mean is it something completely odd? Here in Holland, when you go to big cities like Amsterdam or Rotterdam, it’s a compeletly normal phenomenon, you see us Hijabies everywhere alhamdoulah, how is that in the States? Haha I wrote a whole story thats not even on the topic, I’m sorry, but it’s just nice for me to hear your stories=D
Anyhow, ontopic now =P My inside style? Depends..if I’m getting home from college or my job I just wear my most comfortable pants, preferebly a size XXXXL cause I just love them big =P And a tanktop with a vest, especially this time of the year when it’s freezing over here! When I have a girls night in I love to go all fancy and chique and wear everything I cant wear outside=p
HI EVERYONE!i dont mean to burst the burble but lets not get carried away by ‘modesty an style’ till we loose the islamic defination of modesty.hijab means cover up (in loose not tight clothes)the whole body with exception of face and hands.its okay to love colours but the whole idea of hijab is to avoid attracting attention,hence if you dont lyk black try earthly hues lyk brown,navy blue,you know quiet colours.sisters the prophet said we will not believe until we love him more than ourselves.before we walk out of our doors lets ask ourselves would ALLAH approve of our dressing?would the prophet allow his wives to dress in the manner we dress and lets remember after all is said and done only islam will prevail and we are from ALLAH and to HIM we shall return.we have a habit but wen we know its not right lets kick it out as fast as we can,the make ups(we are good with some moisturiser and lip balm only not fancy lip gloss),the fancy jewelry(even attractive rings),the perfumes; anything that makes us attractive in the eyes of deen not in our eyes(we may try to justify our actions at times even wen we know they are wrong)all this we must avoid wen going outside,then wen we go inside to be with our husband whooolaah!go for the whole shabang!!! inshaALLAH ALLAH will reward us.
Why is everyone saying LMBO, instead of Laugh My Ass Off?
Dont be such fags.
We need to start a new blog topic…
I agree. I keep coming back to this blog, and then feeling sad because there are very few new comments. Someone mentioned a good topic in one of the posts – when did you first start covering, and what inspired you to do it?
when i’m home it’s just me and my husband
so, typically i wear shorts and tight shirts
i have very long hair, so it is almost always in a ponytail
lol
my husband likes for me to wear baby oil
;)
so i have to wear socks or else i wld break my neck on the wood floors
Asalamu alaikum,
I usually wear my abaya but as soon as i get home its straight into comfy clothes such as Yoga pants, tank tops, jogging bottoms and the hijab flies across the room on my bed lol. Wearing a hijab outside all day, you need to let your hair down when you get home. One thing i am trying to stop but haven’t succeeded in doing so far is wearing perfume outside, i am addicted to perfumes. I will buy a bottle when ever i feel i need a new fragrance lol but insha Allah i will have to cut down on that.
@Sima, i used to wear earrings all the time. I was mad about them till i started practising and i do miss wearing them some times but Alhamdulilah I’m happy that I wear my abaya and hijab and would not change it for anything. I would never go back to my jahiliya days.
I dress my abaya with colourful bangles, massive rings and if you wear a nice cardigan that matches the bangles your all set.
@Zaynah, i am going to be trying your exercise, been looking for ways to exercise without breaking my bank account lol (being a student and all) and this is just perfect. Jazakallah khair.
@Shadwa abdel-Aziz Masha Allah, May Allah ta’alla keep you and your mum on the straight path Insha Allah. For a teenager in the UK to be wearing your hijab proudly is admirable Masha Allah and your a brilliant example for all the teenage girls here who are either afraid to wear a hijab because of were they live or because of peer pressure and being afraid of how society might see them differently.
Were do you live? I am from London and when i read your post i was amazed to realise that there are certain places where some Muslims feel isolated from the rest of the Muslim population in the UK. Alhamdulilah there is an amazing Muslim community in London and that is what makes me fall in love with this beautiful religion all over again every day Alhamdulilah.
All praise is due to Allah ta’alla.
rukeya its gud you wear te abaya and hijab but we all have to know apart from the rest of our bodies our ornaments(bangles.earings and necklaces toe rings)are haram for a non-mahram to see.lets try to be lyk the sahaba,once they were told something is haram they let go of it immediately and said we have heard and so we obey.lets stop wearing these disco hijabs lyk one lecturer once said,inshaALLAH.
ORNAMENTS,MAKE UP AND AND PERFUME -ITS HARAM OUTSIDE THE HOUSE AND ITS SAID THAT WHEN A NONMAHRAM IS PLEASED WITH THE SCENT OF YOUR PERFUME ITS LYK YOU HAVE COMMITED ZINNAH,ARE WE WILLING TO WASH OFF JANNABA EVERY DAY.AND HOW ABOUT DISOBEYNIG ALLAH?NO SCENT,MAKE UP OR ORNAMENT IS WORTH IT.THEY ARE LITTLE PRICES TO PAY FOR JANNAH,DONT YOU AGREE?LETS DROP THEM!!!
HARAM OUTSIDE AND EVEN INSIDE WHEN WE HAVE A NON-MAHRAM IN THE HOUSE.
ANY ORNAMENTS BUT AM NOT SO SURE ABOUT THE WEDDING RING
where’s your backup? your proof? It’s easy to say things are haram sister, but it up with hadiths or Quran.
Salam
Sister, it says it in the same passage it says to wear a hijab.
“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.” [24:31]
Sister, Back in the days, women used to wear ankle bracelets that made noises , and those noises were to be some kind of sex appeal to men.
Allah has made the religion easy for us, but it’s us humans that constantly want to make it hard on each other.
When you start mentioning that a woman commits Zinnah whena a man catches a whif of her perfume, thennnnnnn I believe its taking it to extremes!!!!!
I agree wth Rabeeyah here. Of course you’re not gonna douse yourself in perfume, that’d make you too obvious, but what about our normal pheromones? That’s ’scent’ too, and what men as the complementary species are supposed to pick up. If a man catches that and is pleased, then what? Was it our fault?
Modesty is needed in everything, and that’s the margin we’ve been given to navigate in our manner and apparel.
Maaf but where in that passage does it say that jewellery is haraam? when they talk about ornaments , they seem to be talking about a womans natural ornaments i.e parts of the body not actual ornamentation. i dont think there’s anything wrong with a simple bracelet or ring and i fail to see how a simple bracelet on top of a cardi or top is attracting attention. but i am not one to judge or preach as i am also human and make mistakes.
sister trix i believe that it is jewelry that makes noise that is haram
however i could be mistaken
there is one thing i would like to say though
as muslims i think we focus too much on the haram
look how many things allah (swt) has made halal
remeber surah rahman
which of the favors of your lord will you deny?
i think women especially are constantly scrutinized.
there is a way to go about things
and i don’t think pointing fingers is it.
personally, i feel this site is remarkably uplifting.
it is not easy to wear hijab.
women are told there whole lives that they are to be beautiful and delicate
we are told that are very worth is measured in beauty.
so to reprogram yourself and do things right is no easy feat.
we are only human.
this site gives you the best of both worlds.
it shows you how to be outwardly beautiful
while still adhering to the rules.
it provides a support system for those who need it.
and helps unify the ummah.
sisters please remember that we are currently living in a world that does not support our way of life.
we are square pegs trying to fit into a circle.
so let’s not further cause problems by alienating each other.
we’re all we got
sorry for writing a novel
but that has been on my heart for some time now.
Girl,
So agree with what you say here. Being a ‘covered’ woman in today’s world is damn hard. I’m always wary of preaching the ‘haram’ stuff – everyone knows it. Why not focus on what is halaal, the abundance of leeway we’ve been given as Muslim women even in the scriptures that told us of the way to behave?
And also too, what’s in our hearts is for Allah to know. You may be doing something to make you feel good, not to attract men’s attention. We are judged by our intentions too, not just by looking at the action.
Very true – we are all we got! So let’s hang together and try to make our lives as Muslim women as good as we can make it. Allah knows none of us is perfect, but I think it in in all our hearts to be better and as perfect as we can be. Let’s strive for that, shall we?
very much agree :)
Well when im at home i usually wear afghan clothes. I live with my family, so i cant go all out in tank tops and i always have a scarf on me or nearby just in case un expected visitors show up theni can just quicly wrap it around.
If it is a busy day, and i dont stay at home much then i dont feel like changing because hijab style might be done nice etc. it makes it more complicated to be taking it on and off.
if im not going out much then i like to put on eye liner and play around with make up and if its a not so busy week then i like to straighten/curl/cut my hair different ways (:
Salam im iqraa x
ive just turned 13 and i dont wear the hijab yet but really want to and i think my mum would be the most happiest if i do but obviously im not supposed to do it for her but for allah (SWT) and inshallah i will be wearing in a couple of months x im just dead worried though … my close family would be proud and so wil my gran and aunties but i dont think my cousins would like it much because there into the outside world and like to be like the non-believers but to be honest thats not wats bothering me because im strong enough to stand up to them for what i believe mashalah it is just school im worried about becasue i told a few of my friends last year and they were cool with it but this year ive made so many more friends masallah and i think they would be comfortable if i do wear the hijab, i am quite a popular and smart girl mashallah and i think the hijab would complete me and my mum says tht the minute i put it on theres no going back and that its not as hard as i think
my really best friend who i met because her and my mother are best freinds mashalllah there friendship is for the sake of allahtallah ..anyway my best friend wears it and she had a few problems with girls her at school but SUPRISINLy the nonbelievers never said a thing to her but it was other muslims who bullied her …. these girls at her school tried to pull it off her !!!!!!! they were probaly jealous that they dont have such a magnifecent thing sitting on there heads Lol
i think that although we are muslims mashallah we dont miss out on anything and that islam is not strict at all….. watever the non-belivers can do we can do but we have boundaries that will protect us from going to far and boundaries to not make ourselves like them but diferent becuse we are much more wise and modest mashallah .. i dont think society really undertsands that these days !!! which is a real shame because there missing out on the beautliful religion that we all have and practise…. i could really use other muslims to talk to because there are no other muslim girls in my year !!!!
my email adress is xxiqraaxx@hotmail.com
im a really chatty person btw as you can see lol
salam and peace be upon al of use x :)
Lol, Iqraa, lovely to meet you. Girl, you are wise beyond your years! I wish I could’ve been so steadfast in my faith at your age.
You’re right – non-muslims don’t have much problem with the hijab. It’s muslim girls and women who are ‘ashamed’ of it in a way. To some people, wearing a hijab is akin to slumming it, liek not living up to what life is offering. But we have to face it – this life here is just a transition spot for the true believing Muslim. Sad and such a shame they cannot realize that…
And lol too, be as chatty as you want! We love chatty here (coming from one who hasn’t been on in ages, ack!)
oh i forgot to mention some examples of things that we can do that non-believers do …. but we can do it in a much safer and wiser and better way…..
1. we can wear nice clothes and jewellery (btw i think jellewrry is perfectly alright as long as its not bright or stands out…..it should be subtle and modest…
2. we can also wear makeup even if you wear the hijab …… as long as you dont go to over the top and make it stand out because tht would just make u sluttyy…….. i wear quite alot of makeup these day but inshallah wen i wear the hijab my mum said that i can wear like dear brands as long as if i cut down a bit ;L i think wen i wear the hijab i would wear like one cover of foundation(the sm colour of my skin obviously) and obviously eyeliner (ive tried liquide but i cant put iht on properly…ANY TIPS PLEASE EMAIL ME THEM) em some lipgloss obviously…a nice dark blusher and a coat of mascara but thats iht…im not keen on eyeshadow and stuff..
4. we can go to parties and have fun..as long as there no men and that there not all non-believers
5. we can go out and have fun shopping and going for walks!
6. we can have fantastic jobs and hubbys ;) (im a little young to be talking about tht i know lol ) :D xxx
Let’s see if my email comes through too! I’d love to get in touch with everyone who wanna contact me!
zayn_@hotmail.com
lol stay young and wise the way you are Iqraa, I wish I had started earlier but better late than never. you will see once you start you won’t go back Insh’Allah. And you can’t beat the feeling that you get when you are wearing hijab it is the best and now i just feel naked without my scarf on.
all the best to you!
Salaams Iqra,
You sound so sweet. My niece is called Iqra and she is 14. She started wearing the hijaab last year – she goes to a school in a part of the U.K where she is only one of 3 Muslims, so it is quite tough for her. Luckily, she is very strong and confident. She is also beautiful, mashallah, and I think the hijaab makes her even more beautiful.
Good luck on your journey to hijaab. I was much older then you when I did it, and it was something that I always thought about, and half dreaded. Sister Rukeya is right, society really judges us by our attractiveness – and I think insecurity would just get the better of me. But at the same time, it used to make me feel so dirty if a guy looked at me or made comments…sad to say, it was mainly the muslim guys who did this!
The lightening moment came when I was off work for a few weeks over Xmas, and had been reading about Islam. I read about shirk (worshipping others with Allah SWT) and it struck me that if I was more bothered by what society thought about me wearing hijaab, then what Allah T’ala wanted, then I was commiting shirk.
The first day that I wore hijaab to work, I was really nervous inside! But as I pulled open the door to my office, I felt a surge of confidence, and Alhumdolilah, I got through it. I did get some weird looks, and some even weirder cooments (did someone in your family die? Is it a special day?) LOL!
Now, I would feel naked w/o hijaab.
I try to look smart and covered at all times. I do wear some make-up but am trying to tone it down, and I do like rings, but I don’t think I necessarily stand-out in my appearance.
May Allah t’ala guide us all, and shower his infinite mercy on each of us and the whole of his creation – amin.
Sorry, this is a bit irrelevant, but where can i find a yellow skirt like the one in the picture? I’ve been looking for a while now and i can’t seem to find ittt!